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| ====== Etiquette Guide ====== | ====== Etiquette Guide ====== |
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| This guide is directly based on the one written by the [[yesterweb|Yesterweb]] - I think its a great guide and thank them for it! However please be aware it may differ in tone from other MelonLand documents. This is not a set of rules, but a set of guidelines to have the best interaction possible with others! | Whenever life gets you down, Mrs. Brown |
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| These are a list of guidelines for 'etiquette' or behavior. If you think these sound reasonable, it wouldn't hurt to follow them in other spaces online as well. We should strive for unity, not division. | And things seem hard or tough |
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| ===== 1. Engage in good faith ===== | And people are stupid, obnoxious or daft |
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| To engage in "good faith" means to assume that others have sincere, honest and respectful intentions. | And you feel that you've had quite enough.... |
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| **Bad faith discussions are approached with:** | |
| * <fc #ff0000>Personal attacks</fc> | |
| * <fc #ff0000>Assumptions about bad intent</fc> | |
| * <fc #ff0000>Misrepresenting others' ideas</fc> | |
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| **Good faith discussions are approached with:** | * <fc #ff0000>Just remember that you're standing on a planet that's evolving</fc> |
| * <fc #008000>Honesty and openness</fc> | * <fc #ff0000>And revolving at nine hundred miles an hour</fc> |
| * <fc #008000>An effort to understand others' thought process (where they are coming from)</fc> | * <fc #ff0000>That's orbiting at nineteen miles a second, so it's reckoned,</fc> |
| * <fc #008000>Mindfulness of potential misunderstandings that may arise</fc> | * <fc #ff0000>A sun that is the source of all our power</fc> |
| * <fc #008000>Assumption that others are not deliberately trying to be harmful</fc> | * <fc #008000>The sun and you and me and all the stars that we can see</fc> |
| | * <fc #008000>Are moving at a million miles a day</fc> |
| | * <fc #008000>In an outer spiral arm, at forty thousand miles an hour</fc> |
| | * <fc #008000>Of the galaxy we call the 'Milky Way'</fc> |
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| It's important to note: When dealing with sensitive issues that go against the dominant worldview (e.g., "commonly accepted ideas"), others will likely not have all of the knowledge they need to come to a complete understanding of the issue. We should not attack seemingly-well-intentioned people for this, and instead work toward coming to a mutual understanding when possible. | * <fc #ff0000>Our galaxy itself contains a hundred billion stars.</fc> |
| | * <fc #ff0000>It's a hundred thousand light years side to side</fc> |
| | * <fc #ff0000>It bulges in the middle, sixteen thousand light years thick</fc> |
| | * <fc #ff0000>But out by us, it's just three thousand light years wide</fc> |
| | * <fc #008000>We're thirty thousand light years from galactic central point</fc> |
| | * <fc #008000>We go 'round every two hundred million years</fc> |
| | * <fc #008000>And our galaxy is only one of millions of billions</fc> |
| | * <fc #008000>**In this amazing and expanding universe**</fc> |
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| Even when bad faith is evident, do not attack others or lose your cool. If help is needed, reach out to the mod team. | * <fc #008000>The</fc> <fc #ff0000>universe</fc> <fc #008000>itself</fc> <fc #ff0000>keeps</fc> <fc #008000>on</fc> <fc #ff0000>expanding</fc> <fc #008000>and</fc> <fc #ff0000>expanding</fc> |
| | * <fc #008000>In</fc> <fc #ff0000>all</fc> <fc #008000>of</fc> <fc #ff0000>the</fc> <fc #008000>directions</fc> <fc #ff0000>it</fc> <fc #008000>ca</fc>n <fc #ff0000>whizz</fc> |
| | * <fc #008000>As</fc> <fc #ff0000>fast</fc> <fc #008000>as</fc> <fc #ff0000>it</fc> <fc #008000>can</fc> <fc #ff0000>go,</fc> <fc #008000>at</fc> <fc #ff0000>the</fc> <fc #008000>speed</fc> <fc #ff0000>of</fc> <fc #008000>light,</fc> <fc #ff0000>you</fc> <fc #008000>know</fc> |
| | * <fc #ff0000>Twelve</fc> <fc #008000>million</fc> <fc #ff0000>miles</fc> <fc #008000>a</fc> <fc #ff0000>minute,</fc> <fc #008000>and</fc> <fc #ff0000>that's</fc> <fc #008000>the</fc> <fc #ff0000>fastest</fc> <fc #008000>speed</fc> <fc #ff0000>there</fc> <fc #008000>is</fc> |
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| ===== 2. Engage in constructive conflict ===== | //So remember, when you're feeling very small and insecure// |
| | **How amazingly unlikely is your birth** |
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| Conflict is necessary for growth. It can be uncomfortable, but it also fuels change. There is constructive and destructive conflict. We can only engage in constructive conflict when all parties engage in good-faith discussions. | __And pray that there's intelligent life somewhere up in space |
| | 'Cause there's bugger-all down here on Earth!__ |
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| **Destructive conflict looks like:** | The Galaxy Song - Monty Python |
| * <fc #ff0000>An effort to win at any cost</fc> | |
| * <fc #ff0000>Treating questions or criticisms as personal attacks</fc> | |
| * <fc #ff0000>Mocking or ridiculing others</fc> | |
| * <fc #ff0000>Ignoring, dismissing, mocking or ridiculing others' ideas</fc> | |
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| **Constructive conflict looks like:** | |
| * <fc #008000>People interested in coming to a mutual understanding</fc> | |
| * <fc #008000>Listening closely to others' viewpoints</fc> | |
| * <fc #008000>Openness to reconsidering your own perspective</fc> | |
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| Reconsidering your perspective doesn't necessarily mean reconsidering your position. Perpsective is how you view something, and perspective is always clearest when we analyze all parts of a situation. | |
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| === We should approach conflict as a dialogue instead of a debate. === | |
| What is the difference between a debate and a dialogue? | |
| * <fc #ff0000>A debate is oppositional: two or more sides oppose each other and attempt to prove each other wrong.</fc> | |
| * <fc #008000>A dialogue is collaborative: two or more sides work together toward common understanding.</fc> | |
| If it becomes apparent that constructive conflict is not possible, the best thing to do is to disengage. | |
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| ===== 3. Be mindful of participating in a shared, public space ===== | |
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| * All of our spaces are shared with other people. | |
| * We should not speak over, interrupt or interject a conversation with unreasonably off-topic comments | |
| * We should not make our own voices louder than others, being careful not to take up more than our own share of space. | |
